Embrace Goddess Celibacy: Reclaim Your Pleasure and Awaken Your Cervix

The Rise of Boy Sober and the Power of Goddess Celibacy

Boy sober is going viral again, and I have mixed feelings about it! This movement started as a protest against the control of women and feminine bodies, especially after the overturning of Roe v. Wade. However, I believe some people are missing a vital aspect. I call it Goddess Celibacy, a way to let pleasure lead even when there’s no partner around.

Women and femmes have been practicing this for generations. When it feels like there are no worthy partners to share our juiciest, most ecstatic selves with, it’s easy to say NOPE altogether.

Reasons for Choosing Celibacy

There are many reasons we might choose to step back from partnered sex. Hookup culture can be depleting and sometimes even harmful. Dating apps often feel like a full-time job! Maybe your last relationship was a dumpster fire. And with the current climate, it’s no wonder many of us are pulling away from dating and intimacy.

Three of my friends are currently navigating a celibacy phase. I don’t think this is a coincidence given the times we live in. With the rise of rape academies, the Epstein files, and women facing severe consequences for their reproductive choices, it’s understandable to want to retreat from the dating scene.

Every reason for stepping back is valid. So, let me introduce you to: Goddess Celibacy!

What is Goddess Celibacy?

Goddess Celibacy is a reclamation of pleasure outside of partnered sex. Just because you aren’t engaging with a partner doesn’t mean you have to neglect your sexuality! In fact, this can be one of the most empowering times to fully embrace your unique sexual flow.

Understanding the Cervix

If you have a cervix, here’s where to start! The cervix is often one of the most neglected and numb parts of female sexual anatomy. Most of the time, it’s completely ignored. Many of us don’t see it as an integral aspect of our sexuality.

The cervix is highly innervated, connected to a different nerve pathway than your clitoris. The clitoris carries somatic sensory signals, which are sensations you can consciously feel as direct, localized stimulation. It’s fast, precise, and easy to map.

In contrast, the cervix is innervated by the pelvic splanchnic nerves (parasympathetic) and the hypogastric nerve (sympathetic), both part of the autonomic nervous system. This is why cervical sensation feels so different. It’s more diffuse, pressure-based, and deeply internal.

The Magic of Cervical Pleasure

Cervical pleasure relates more to the state of your nervous system than the nature of the touch. The vagus nerve also plays a role in the cervix. This means that even individuals with spinal cord injuries can still feel pleasure in this area. With three diverging nerve pathways converging on the cervix, it’s no wonder this is such a magical and mysterious place!

Many women don’t know much about their own cervix. Yet, it can be a source of profound pleasure, wisdom, and relaxation. The body has pleasure pathways that most women have never activated!

But what if you’ve experienced cervical pleasure without realizing it? This is true for many women. Since sex often focuses on male pleasure, female pleasure can be perplexing, even to us. Because the nerve pathways are completely different from those of the clitoris, we can’t compare the two!

The Importance of Safety and Relaxation

Since the cervical nerves connect to the nervous system rather than the sensory system, safety, relaxation, and trust become crucial for experiencing the vast pleasure the cervix can offer. These elements are often easier to cultivate alone! When there’s no partner present, it’s simpler to find safety, relaxation, and trust.

If you struggle with this, coaching could be a great option for you. But generally speaking, it’s easier to explore these feelings on your own.

Expanding Your Connection to Your Cervix

So, why not use this dedicated time alone (boy sober) to deepen your connection to your cervix? Here’s a short practice you can do daily to help expand your sensation.

Goddess Celibacy Daily Practice

1. Timing: Try this first thing in the morning for an energizing start, or at night to wind down. Grab your favorite lube!

2. Permission: Place your hands over your cervix, about halfway between your belly button and vulva. Ask for permission to touch. If you get a no, honor that and do the practice with your energy instead.

3. Preparation: Generously apply lube, starting by gently rubbing it on your clitoris. Take deep, big inhales and sigh audibly on the exhale. No one is around to hear or judge you!

4. Positioning: After several breaths, find a position where you can reach your cervix with your fingers. About 80% of people can reach their own. Good positions include child’s pose, a deep squat, or lying on your back with a pillow under your lower back. If you can’t reach today, that’s okay! Just get as close as you can without straining and focus your attention and energy there.

5. Touch: Gently touch the cervix. Be still. Hold your attention there. Breathe deeply and relax your body.

6. Return: After a few breaths, gently return to rubbing your clitoris slowly, breathing as before.

7. Explore: Alternate between the clitoris and cervix a few times, perhaps making small circles or soft taps on the cervix. Keep breathing deeply and sighing.

8. Connect: Start connecting the sensation in the cervix to the center of your brain. You’re remapping the cervix into your awareness!

9. Close: Conclude by placing your fingers on the clitoris and streaming universal loving energy through your cervix, brain, and body, connecting you to this energetic flow in your life.

10. Reflect: Thank your cervix for her lessons today. Consider journaling about any wisdom or guidance you gained.

This practice can also be done if you don’t have a cervix! The energy of the cervix exists even if it has been removed or you were born without one. You can still engage with this practice mentally and feel its power!

The Joy of Self-Exploration

So, whether you’re going boy sober as a protest or simply because there aren’t great options right now, it doesn’t mean you have to neglect your sexuality! In fact, now is the perfect time to explore and open new pleasure pathways that are often easier to navigate alone. Just imagine the bliss that awaits you when you eventually choose to find a partner again!

Inspired Action

Try this practice for seven days in a row and notice how the sensation evolves over time! This can be a wildly awakening experience!

Let’s ignite the Bliss Revolution together!